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Griffin-Monk Counselling

Hello, I ‘m Virginia.

I am a psychotherapeutic counsellor, working with adults in Deal and Folkestone in Kent.

The prospect of beginning counselling, and/or returning to counselling, can be difficult… but well worth it!

I hope that I can help you to resolve some initial uncertainties so that you can decide to go further with me for counselling. I am happy to answer any queries at an initial session.

You might have been experiencing uncertainty and anxiety, or low self-esteem.  Your life experience, or how you relate to yourself and others, may be troubling you. There could be patterns in your behaviour which you feel unable to change- history repeating itself. Possibly the ways that you have learned to see yourself and others are unhelpful, and you are want to create better relationships with yourself and others.

Perhaps you are looking for another way, to give yourself time and space to explore and understand yourself better, and how to respond in situations. You might be at a crossroads or transition in your life or have conflicted feelings.

Many young people are dealing with physical and emotional difficulties. You might have different demands from peers and parents, uncertainties about who you are and how you find your way in the future. You might feel frustrated, not fitting in, and want to feel better, like yourself again.

I know how difficult it can be to face and talk about life experience, you might fear being misunderstood, judged or feeling worse.  Clients from diverse traditions, experiences and beliefs have told me how counselling has enriched and supported them in their lives, opening up possibilities of hope and self-understanding, and a more accepting compassionate approach to yourself.

Are you feeling trapped in work, in your workplace relationship or with your family? Do you feel unable to express yourself in all areas of your life? Perhaps you lack the confidence to speak up or feel very self critical at times?

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About Me

Virginia Griffin-Monk

I am a psychotherapeutic counsellor, working with adults in two locations in Kent (Deal and Folkestone).

Most of my working life has been in a personal development context. During and between my trainings I worked as an English lecturer in further education. I was inspired in my training by person-centred and humanistic psychology and began my journey in counselling and psychotherapy.

My first counselling work was with young people, within a college (from 1991-2) and also in a youth agency (from 1992-1997). Following this, I was a volunteer counsellor in a charity offering low cost counselling in a community centre (2004-2007), a volunteer counsellor at Metanoia Institute’s Counselling and Psychotherapy Service (2007-8) and an honorary psychotherapist in an NHS psychotherapy department (2008-2010).

I have worked with people with wide-ranging experiences and concerns, including anxiety, depression and issues to do with identity and relationships. I have also offered shorter-term telephone counselling in an employee assistance programme (2004-2010), often supporting people at times of great isolation and enabling them to find a way forward. I worked in an NHS project providing short-term counselling (from 2010-2011).

I worked in Spiral Holistic Therapy Centre (2015-2019) as a counsellor and developing my private practice.

I continue to work in my own private practice to this day.



I completed an initial Diploma training as a counsellor in 1991 at the Institute of Education in London.

I gained a Post graduate Diploma in Integrative Psychological Studies in 2012 from Metanoia Institute and Middlesex University.

I am an Ordinary Member of the UK Association of Humanistic Psychology Practitioners.

I am a Registered Member of British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy.

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Some clients who I see are trying to balance demands of life and maintain their creative practice; they sometimes experience low mood and frustration in realising their work, and just as in painting, they may need to take a step back to see the full picture.

I recognise the impact of traumatic experience from the past that may have shaped your experience in the present. We would work together to help you voice this experience and develop a more grounded and holistic response to yourself.

I often use art or mindfulness approaches to explore and support the work, if you are open to these. I work collaboratively, as we explore issues together, discovering through our therapeutic relationship a deeper understanding of how and why we respond. You will gain an appreciation of yourself and understand how to support yourself in the future.

I believe that we all have the potential to enhance our lives and develop ourselves, through understanding and self-compassion, and I look forward to working with you to help you gain a new perspective.

My theoretical understanding is drawn from attachment, humanistic and relational perspectives. Each of these approaches emphasises the importance of human connection throughout life, in co-creating who we become and how we experience.

Humanistic psychology values the individual experience, as your unique experience. The relational approach sees our relationship in therapy as fundamental in our work together. So within this I recognise the impact of traumatic experience from the past. I might explore with you how your patterns and past has shaped your experience in the present, or focus on the here and now. Through our developing therapeutic relationship you may discover insights into how you relate, and other possible ways of being and responding

I recognise the important role of cultural, spiritual experience and beliefs. I value the individual’s search for meaning..

I bring warmth and openness to my work, seeking to create a trusting relationship. I am flexible and empathic, working to develop understanding and insight to enable self-acceptance and growth.

I will provide a safe place where you can express your feelings and explore your issues. We may also use mindfulness if you resonate with this approach.

I work in accordance with the BACP Ethical Framework for good practice. I undertake continued training to keep my knowledge and skills up-to-date and attend regular clinical counselling supervision with an experienced psychotherapist/supervisor.

Why Choose Me?

I have a wide experience of the needs and situations that arise for people in their lives.

I have had considerable experience of short-term and open-ended/longer-term counselling.

Some people may decide to come for counselling for a specific period and need which has arisen in specific situations; others may want and need longer-term work, as they know that they will need more time, working with issues of long-standing such as depression, self esteem or abuse. There are benefits to be gained in either and I would be able to work with you and review as your needs may change and unfold.

Things you need to know

Session Information

If you would like to see me for counselling I offer two locations, one in Folkestone, and one in Deal, Kent.

I’m also happy to offer telephone or online counselling via Zoom, during both the present time of health emergency, and in the future.

I am also able (in Deal) to arrange for our sessions as ‘walking therapy’. We will be outdoors and walking together whilst talking. Many people find this approach easier than sitting face-to-face.

For more information please see below.

Folkestone, Kent


74 Tontine St,
Folkestone CT20 1JP


Wednesday Mornings by appointment.

Session Fees:

£50 per 50-minute session.

Some lower-cost spaces may be available, so please enquire regarding the availability of these spaces if you are interested.


There may be some limited space at the front of the building but there is a nearby car park also,

Payers Park, Folkestone CT20 1JG

Meeting your therapist:

You will need to complete and online form and follow Covid-19 related procedures. When you enter your temperature may be taken and a spray will be used for the soles of your shoes. Of course there will be hand sanitiser as standard. Counselling is a socially-distanced practice so therefore there is no requirement for you to have to wear a mask whilst receiving therapy.

For further information about Core Therapies please visit their website here.

Deal, Kent


The Golf Road Centre, 28 Golf Road, Deal, Kent CT14 6PY or a walking venue that we agree upon.


Mondays, Tuesdays and Wednesdays by appointment.

Session Fees:

£50 per 50 minute session. I am also available for telephone counselling and I am happy to discuss the possibility of lower fees.

Transport / Parking:

The centre is on local bus routes and parking is available in central Deal.

COVID-19 Information:

There will be hand sanitiser as standard. Counselling is a socially-distanced practice so therefore there is no requirement for you to have to wear a mask whilst receiving therapy.

Contact & Initial Session Booking Information

If you would like to arrange an initial session you can contact me on virginia@griffin-monkcounselling.co.uk or you can use the contact form below. Alternatively you may wish to call me on 07792 965875. We could have a brief conversation at that point and I will be happy to answer any questions you may have.

Contact Me

If you would like to make an enquiry or to book an initial session with me then please contact me via email or phone.

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07792 965 875

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